Me thinks this single friend is confusing singles mixers with singles orgies. Probably thinks my friend's shul is a "wretched hive of scum and villainy".
Am I not getting something? Is the shadchan needed to make sure that any unsuitable marriages not take place? To prevent undue mingling? To make sure the shul doesn't keep its' singles to itself and instead share them with the outside world? Huh? People not getting married, bad. People getting married, also bad? What?
I've commented on several posts that a lot of my friends married their girlfriends/boyfriends and did it without the aid of any shadchans. If you want to get married, go do something about it yourself! What makes people think that their mommies and shadchans will find someone for them? The mommies will look for a spouse for their kidult that they themselves will like. While the shadchans' main concern is to move inventory, earn money and keep any damaged goods out of the system.
Want to stay single? Use only the Elders of Zion approved dating method, complain about every potential match and blame the system. Want to get married? Do something about it!
Blaming the system might actually be more fun than marying some of the frumies out there.
ReplyDeleteYeah, actually the shadchans and the idiots themself do a good job of keeping the psychos single.
ReplyDeleteBeing a psycho frumie myself, I find your post extremely offensive. ;)
ReplyDeleteI find myself elated about your extreme offense!
ReplyDeleteI think they need a member of the tznius police to make sure there is no inter-sex mixing, afterall how dare these young people think it is their right to meet on their own? Don't they know that they would be putting an entire shadchan industry out of business in these troubling financial times?
ReplyDeleteOh! Now I see! Yes, this single friend is a great tzaddekes for worrying about the shadchans' parnassah!
ReplyDeletehehe....It's not that big of a deal, meeting at shul, it's not like they met at a club! very G rated. A buddy of mine saw my his (then future) wife walking down the street and followed her home.....
ReplyDeleteWhat? You never heard of what those MOs do at their shuls? It would even make Caligula blush!
ReplyDeleteDid he club her?
hehe...
ReplyDeleteI met my wife in bed. His name is Josh. Do you know him?
ReplyDeleteGood for you anonymous! It takes a lot of guts to come out of the closet! Were you drunk at the time?
ReplyDeleteMoshe, completely agree with you. Never actually followed the Elders of Zion method myself, but then again, I knew that would never work for me.
ReplyDeleteHeh. Yeah, the moment on of those crones would see your dragon, she'd start trowing holy water at you. ;-)
ReplyDeleteagree with moshe, its nice to meet, you anon
ReplyDeleteI met my husband in Las Vegas. G-d was my Shadchan. I don't trust these shadchanim. They first do proctology on you and your family and then tell everyone else what they find. G-d forbid if there are BTs, or convert(s), or some genetics in the family. You will never get shiduch in your life again!
ReplyDeleteVegas?! I hope you met him before the wedding and not after! ;-)
ReplyDeleteBut, they tell you to bend over with a Yiddish accent!
As the saying goes, "If you want something done right, do it yourself."
Times change, we really need to change with them. If we were truly traditional, parents would be marrying off 13yo kids.
ReplyDeleteCan't say much on this topic, but only one thing - everyone has to do what fits then but please don't be too picky - you aren't ideal either..
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